The hardest person in the world to love is yourself. We are all personally intertwined with all aspects of ourselves, and we all have multiple facets to our personalities. To top that off we’re forced, from birth, to interact with countless other people and their personal afflictions with self. Not only do we have to deal with us, but we have to deal with everyone else. Now, I see this as beautiful- if you learn each time, but there in lies most people’s problem. They just don’t learn.
First let me say this, YOU ARE NOT PERFECT SO STOP TRYING TO BE. Yes, you should strive, in fact you’re not striving hard enough, so go do that (after you read this). Yes, you should practice, and you’re probably not doing enough of that either. Yes, you should try and be the best version of you that anyone could possibly be, after all, this life is about you. Which brings me to loving yourself.
Is it all about you?
Of course not! But, actually, it is.
Here lies man’s oldest dilemma:
Self or Collective?
I’m going to answer that dreadful question once and for all, and you can argue with me, but I promise, someday, you will come to this conclusion and things will finally become clear. Sadly it could happen on your deathbed, but hopefully this will help you along.
This is how most currently think:
The Greater Good (collective) is ultimately the “right” choice (as if there were such a thing in the real world). The good guy saves the day, city, world, whatever. The bad guy is selfish, self-righteous, greedy, whatever. Well nothing, I REPEAT nothing, is cut and dry. The world would be a simple and boring as shit place if it were. There’s no definite answer TO ANYTHING.
With the greater good comes a multitude of problems, answers, solutions, possibilities, directions, paths, choices, ideas, thoughts, ideologies, information, misinformation, and absolutely anything can be completely opposite of how you initially saw it.
So, that seems pretty chaotic, right? Sure, I suppose. It also means no matter how shitty, no matter how awful, no matter how embarrassing, no matter how dreadful, no matter how dim, grim, or downright impossible life seems nothing is final. We live in an ever changing living organism of a world. It lives and breathes, we live and breathe.
Well, what about self?
What about it? It’s exactly the same.
With self comes a multitude of problems, answers, solutions, possibilities, directions, paths, choices, ideas, thoughts, ideologies, information, misinformation, and absolutely anything can be completely opposite of how you initially saw it.
Do you see how the collective and the self are faced with the same problems? Do you see how if you just adjust your thinking, love yourself, and then apply self to the collective, how powerful that can be? Everything begins with you. Your story isYOU. No one else. Sure, outside stimuli affects ALL of us, but it’s how YOU choose to let that affect you. It’s how YOU turn the shit into gold. Stop blaming society, stop blaming others, stop blaming money, and government and power. You’re more powerful than anyone because you have a choice. Everyday we have choices, so many choices we don’t even recognize them all.
We’re all faced with our individual problems, but conversely we’re all dealing with the same underlying problems, problems of self. NO ONE IS PERFECT.
Also, stop comparing yourself to others. Don’t idolize anyone. Don’t envy. Instead, look at others with an observant eye.
What did they do that worked? What did they do that didn’t work? How would you have done something differently?
Learn from each other, don’t envy or idolize anyone because no one is better than anyone else. It’s all about how you choose to define yourself.
Blame can’t lie on anyone for how you feel, react, and cope.
I don’t have all the answers. I’ve suffered from depression over the years, but I’ve observed everyone around me, from my parents and grandparents, to other family members, friends, colleagues, public figures, down to strangers I’ve met in fleeting moments. We’re “taught” to believe it’s black and white, but really it’s a rainbow of colors filled with every imaginable scenario, and that’s fucking beautiful.
I feel fortunate to live in this world. Sure, it’s a mess, but we’re opening up our eyes, we’re standing up for self and the collective, we’re realizing it’s ALL A BALANCE.
That’s your lesson for today:
It’s all a balance. Find your balance within yourself and you will find the collective balance.
It’s said you can’t love another until you love yourself. Well, you can’t love the collective until you love yourself. Start within and the rest will fall into place.
Peace & Love- For myself and for all!